What not to say about math

Got math anxiety? Chances are you're passing it on to your kids. But there's hope — here are some do's and don'ts on how to talk to them about math.
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Video transcript:

Child: “I need help.” [ECHOES]

[OMINOUS MUSIC PLAYING]

Parent: “No!”
Child: “I need help. I don’t know how to do the diagram.”
Parent: “Diagram? Why do they make you do so much work just to answer a simple division question? I’m not a math person. Let’s wait till your mom gets home.”

[BUZZER]

Child: “I need help. I don’t know how to do the diagram.”
Parent: “Drawing in math class? That sounds like a fun way to learn math.”

[BELL RINGING]

Child: “Daddy, how much do you think this watermelon costs?”
Parent: “I don’t know. You know I didn’t get the math gene.”

[BUZZER]

Child: “Daddy, how much do you think this watermelon costs?”
Parent: “I don’t know. Why don’t we weigh it? And then we can
estimate the price based on the weight of the watermelon.”

[BELL RINGING]

Child: “How much longer until we get there?”
Parent: “Long”

[BUZZER]

Child: “How much longer until we get there?”
Parent: “Let’s figure it out. We’re driving 25 miles an hour. And we have about eight miles left. How much time do you think we have?”

[BELL RINGING]

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